Sunday, July 02, 2006

Date Rape As Nothing More Than Morning After Regret

In the comments on Althouse: Alcohol is no. 1 date rape drug, the myth that date rape is nothing more than morning after regret came up yet again.

I responded to the question: "Are you saying that false accusations never happen?" With:

The best way I can answer this is to say that the odds of a drunken college student being falsely accused when he got full consent from a drunken partner are lower than the odds that he'll stumble drunk into the nearest body of water and drown. That is a real and proven problem, not speculation fueled by the defenders of accused rapists.

I then included the following link:

University of Wisconsin-La Crosse: Why we are 99.9% sure it is NOT a serial killer – a data based explanation

This open letter to UW-L students from the chairs of Psychology and Sociology/Archeology departments is worth reading for many reasons. One them is the deep belief many people have that a specific outside force (murderer) created this tragedy. This attitude is similar in many ways to what I hear people say when a "good" young man is accused of rape.

The alleged victim becomes the monster able to terrify men on par with the theory that there is a serial killer out there drowning young college men. That means men accused of date rape are given zero responsibility for their actions which the prosecutor labels as criminal.

Unless the accused is in some way already viewed as suspect.

As I've been reading various blogs, I find it interesting that some of those who regularly attack alleged rape victims will instantly take the victim's side if the alleged rapist is an illegal alien. In the war of their biases, illegal alien trumps vindictive woman who accused a man of rape.

In the open letter to UW-L students, they also noted that we cling to the idea that the situation is outside of the man's control rather than accepting that this tragedy might have been preventable. My belief is that continuing on without change is easier for most of us if we can tell ourselves that some monster is at fault when the expected pattern is shattered.

If we seriously considered that binge drinking causes some men to drown and that failing to get full consent causes some men to be accused of rape, we'd have to address men's behavior related to alcohol and sex.

To blame serial killers and lying women is to do nothing productive to prevent the next headline-making tragedy.

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posted by Marcella Chester @ 8:31 AM   3 comments links to this post

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At July 02, 2006 3:23 PM, Blogger Michelle said...

Thank you for your comment. I can see how you found my blog! I want to learn how to use these tags on my individual posts...

Addressing men's drinking behavior certainly would not be a bad thing! The stories I've heard, and of course, what I've experienced. It almost seems commonplace, you know? Sigh.

 
At July 02, 2006 3:54 PM, Blogger Holly Desimone said...

Dear Marcella,

To blame serial killers and lying women is to do nothing productive to prevent the next headline-making tragedy.

SPEAKS FOR ME, THANK YOU FOR THE POST!

 
At July 02, 2006 10:37 PM, Anonymous cooper said...

Indeed if it walks like a duck....

People believing it is out of a man's control allowing them to take no responsibility for their action - I see it in the Duke Case as regardless of the guilt or innocence these boys are not the innocent upstanding as they are now being portrayed; they walked and talked and quaked likes ducks they are now ducks.

Sadly reading what I have read on the web lately in regard to these types of situation I think we have a longer way to go than we should at this point in time.

In the game of blame it always seems to be boys will be boys - personal responsibility starts at what age??????

 

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