When many people say to those of us who identify ourselves as rape victims or survivors, "Stop playing the victim" what they really mean is, "I don't want to hear about the reality of rape or adjust my life to reduce the incidence of rape."
They want to keep their blinders on.
Men who say, "stop playing the victim" often don't want to consider whether they have ever stepped over the line sexually. It's easier to say some of those they've had sexual contact with are playing the victim than to take responsibility for trampling another person's sexual boundaries to the point of committing a crime.
Those who make accusations of playing the victim are the ones playing the victim.
By saying how unfair it is that boys and men need to be sure they get full eager consent from a fully conscious person to protect themselves from being accused of rape. Don't we know that men can't live without sex?
I've heard of spontaneous human combustion, but I never knew the cause was lack of sex.
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