This is more than rape and assault, this is terrorism. Yet many people continue to dismiss this level of violence simply because it is inflicted on people who aren't picked at random.
On March 22 , she said he accused her of having sex with her brother and father. She said she told him that anyone who could think that was sick and demented. She said he then put his arm around her neck and choked her until she couldn't breath. She said he threw her on the bed and told her he did it to show her who was boss.
She said on April 2, she went to her parent's house. She said when she started to leave, he tried to throw a screwdriver at her. She said when she got back he ripped her clothes off and began to inspect her. She said he hit her on the leg and head. He said he shoved her in the bedroom and raped her. She said she tried to kick him off and told him to stop. She said afterward, he would not let her get up for two hours.
She said she didn't call police because he said he would kill her and her family. She said he said it was OK for him to go to jail because eventually he would get out and "she will have severe consequences." She said she did ask him to leave once but he said he wasn't going to. (emphasis mine)
Amen to what the prosecuting attorney said.
"Actions speak louder than words and all we have is her word he did all of these things," [Public Defender Susan] DeGeorge said. [Prosecuting Attorney John] Rupp responded by saying the victim does not have any duty to explain anything.
"There has been a lot of talk lately about why the victim wouldn't get help or leave ..." said Rupp, who is also prosecuting Michael Devlin for kidnapping Shawn Hornbeck four years ago.
He said it is time to stop judging the victim.
The public defender is also partly right. Actions do speak louder than words. No words magically make rape okay. Neither do would'a, could'a, should'a statements about the victim's non-criminal actions.
The motivation for rape, assault and other forms of abuse comes from within the abuser. Victim blaming is a smoke screen designed to divert attention from the real cause of violence.
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