Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Date Rape Denial Reinforces Danger

I came across a post written by a man which explained that there was no such thing as date rape and which gave enough details of what happened (to someone who "misused" this label) to make it clear that the college woman had been raped while unconscious after a night of drinking. The poster showed open disdain for the female college student who woke up and realized she'd been raped the night before.

What this man wanted was for it to be legally and socially acceptable for him to get sex from unwilling or unconscious girls and women as long as these women knew him or came into contact with him in a social situation.

Unfortunately, in many groups date rape is not only socially acceptable, it is celebrated as a successful conquest and defeat of an unworthy opponent. In these groups it's popular to say that date rape victims do this to themselves. When you are a rapist, yet don't want to own the label you have earned, you must find a way to shift the responsibility for your actions away from yourself and onto your victim.

Rather than showing that the rapist is powerful or successful, this "she made me do it" mindset transforms men into pathetic creatures who can't resist any opportunity to sexually dominate. They turn what are viewed as the nicest rapists into sex offenders who are the most out-of-control. They communicate unintentionally that stranger rapists can at least control themselves around people who know their identities.

If committing date rape isn't a choice made by the rapist, this person is someone who can only control their impulses when they are externally controlled or isolated from their potential victims. So this argument which attempts to deny date rape reinforces the belief in the need for lifetime sex offender registries, civil commitment and very long prison sentences for non-stranger rapists.

Only if a date rapist has control over his sexual behavior is there any potential that this person can voluntarily stop being a danger to girls and women who know him or who interact with him in social settings.

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posted by Marcella Chester @ 9:15 AM   2 comments links to this post

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At May 29, 2007 12:30 PM, Blogger sailorman said...

Well, THAT'S disturbing. Email me a link so I can go and argue with him.

Personally, I think this:
If committing date rape isn't a choice made by the rapist, this person is someone who can only control their impulses when they are externally controlled or isolated from their potential victims. So this argument which attempts to deny date rape reinforces the belief in the need for lifetime sex offender registries, civil commitment and very long prison sentences for non-stranger rapists.

is GREAT--one of your best summary paragraphs ever. I suggest you make it the centerpiece of a new post.

 
At May 30, 2007 8:12 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

That post was kinda on the ATTACK, wasn't it?

Ha, I love it!

-johanna

 

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