Maybe men learned that they could be good boys and be sexual predators from watching "educational" films like Are You Popular? (New) copyrighted in 1958 where nice boys lie to girls and pretend to like them to get sexual contact. And where nice boys go to school and declare open season on any girl who trusted him enough to allow him any sexualized contact (parking) or who was sexually violated by him. And where nice boys are right to openly scorn the girls they exploit. And where nice girls aren't bothered to know that the boys they want to be popular with are so shameless that they openly treat some girls like nothing more than fertile dirt.
The "easy" girl, Jenny, who isn't truly popular with anybody for any reason other than sexual exploitation is shown asking one of the boys for the promised math paper she needs to copy. So not only is she "easy," she's clearly a stupid girl who wants to falsely present herself as being as smart as a boy. When the boy gives her his math paper to copy before snubbing her openly, the narrator finds nothing wrong in his behavior.
The nice girl who is new to this school not only can't go parking with the boys, she can't tell them she had the lead in her school play at her old school. To be nice and popular with both boys and girls she has to lie by diminishing her accomplishments. Later in the film, her date (one of the boys who has parked with Jenny) is talking to the girl's parents and says he hates to admit that she helped him find props for the play he'd been unable to find. The only reason he admits this seems to be so that her parents will trust him with their good daughter.
He is presented as completely wonderful when he is no such thing.All these boys are presented in ways that to me make them seem like candidates for cheating on their proper wives with the "easy" girls at every opportunity. This film supports a value system which says that boys and men aren't required to have sexual ethics. If they can get what they want from a girl or woman then that's fine because she's the one responsible for stopping him. No questions should be asked of these boys and men except for requests by other boys and men for advice on how to get more.
Despite the overt message of this film, there's nothing nice or fine about these boys. Not back when this film was made and not now. Yet people continue to blame the girls and make excuses for the boys. People continue to express puzzlement about how nice young men can be guilty of rape. This educational film gives them their answer.
Nice young boys can rape girls who seem like Jenny because these girls are to blame for how boys and men treat them. If she's viewed like Jenny then it can't be rape because she's no innocent victim.
With messages which still echo the views advanced by this old educational film, is it any wonder that rape victims feel guilt and shame while most rapists feel none?
I remember having to sit through educational films and although I don't know if this particular film was in circulation when I was at the age where dating films would have been shown (some of the films I had to watch were made decades earlier), the message of this film is one that was well-ingrained in me by the time I started dating.
That message kept me from recognizing some serious warning signs in my boyfriend's behavior and that message helped keep me silent after I was raped. Being raped was bad enough, but being treated like fertile dirt by all the boys who openly talked about the "easy" girls would have been far worse.
More than one subsequent sexual exploiter said when pushing for sex I didn't want to give, "It's not like you're a virgin." And I'm sure I'm not the only one who has encountered boys and men who used the message contained in this film to justify coercion and forced sex because the girl or woman he was with wasn't someone he believed he had to respect or because he believed it was her job to stop him if she really was a good girl.
Messages like this also help to explain why a man such as Allan Stokke would, in his role as a defense attorney for alleged rapists, attack alleged victims' character and then, in his role as father, fiercely defend a girl's right to not be subjected to demeaning treatment on the web without viewing himself as a hypocrite. His daughter is one of the good girls while most rape victims are not.