Of course those who do this will deny it since they don't consider real victims to actually be real victims.
Sometimes this denial comes in a superior tone or manner where someone claims to be objective. Other times it comes in a caring tone where someone claims to be sympathetic. Other times it comes in an academic tone where someone claims to be more knowledgable. Other times it comes from a painful tone where someone claims to have been helped by letting go of victimhood.
No matter the tone or the claim, what the victim believes and what the victim experienced are less important than what the person doing the denying believes and what they experienced.
In many ways this mirrors what rapists and sexual abusers do. What their victim believed and wanted was less important than what the rapist or sexual abuser wanted. Because of this people who deny victims will often get called rape apologists or potential rapists.
Many who get this backlash use that backlash as an excuse to further undermine those they deny.
I've even seen someone decide that a self-identified rape survivor must be a liar because of that survivor's politics. That's not only abusive, it makes the person who made that statement look like a total jerk and a not very smart one at that.
If those who get a backlash after denying someone the label of victim would set their ego aside, they might realize that what they are doing is presumptious and wrong.
Then they might learn from their mistakes to everyone's benefit.
But denial is easier.
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