So often you can recognize these people when they begin with something like, "Of course real rape is horrific, but ..." or "I don't mean to diminish the pain real rape victims feel, but ..."
This unethical treatment is a key contributor to rapists feeling they are no different from the general public. Some rapists aren't nearly as verbally abusive as those who later attack their victims.
From what I've seen posted on the Internet about rape survivors and alleged rape victims, I bet many rapists consider themselves to be much nicer than the general public.
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