For some rape survivors the trauma of a specific event isn't huge. This can happen when someone with a history of childhood sexual abuse is raped by a friend. That rape can feel like it is "par for the course" of life. This numbness helps that survivor cope with unrelenting violation, but the numbness doesn't nullify the wrongness of the rape.
The power of surviving rape comes in small and large doses. Sometimes the power of surviving rape comes in the anger at those who treat most rapes as a joke. Sometimes the power of surviving rape is just getting through another day as the memories pelt down like golf ball sized hail. Sometimes the power of surviving rape comes through suppressing the memories of rape so the survivor can function when they would otherwise be swamped like a rowboat in the ocean.
The power of surviving rape isn't in surviving perfectly. It is in surviving at all. The biggest question for those who haven't been raped is will you be someone who helps or will you be someone who blocks rape survivors or will you be someone who exploits what they've been through?
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