I've noticed lately that most of the men (or boys) who leave hateful comments about me or those they identify as feminist frequently complain about how all the women they attack hate men. They seem to be assuming that the backlash they get is caused by their gender when in fact the backlash they get is caused by their hateful behavior.
When these types of hateful comments are left by women again they assume that the backlash they get is because they are "defending" men when in many cases they are protecting the violence committed by boys and men against girls and women.
These people do as much or more to conflate violence committed by boys and men with masculinity than the people they attack as man-haters. And of course they feel free to use generalities about women, that using their own logic, would qualify them as women haters.
When these people mention personal responsibility (the victim's personal responsibility, not the violent man's personal responsibility) they demonstrate laziness and sloppiness in their thinking.
Behaving hatefully is pathetically easy whether that is posting vile anonymous comments, bullying a girlfriend, or following the trend by some YouTube members of creating and uploading videos of drivers at fast-food restaurants throwing drinks at the employees.
You might feel powerful now, but it is the shallowest sort of power that gets you nothing real and nothing lasting. You may have seen others who seemed to get real power this way, but it's a corrosive power that eats away at those who hold it.
If you attack me and others because it feels good to vent your rage on someone then I suggest you figure out why you need to act like a human volcano.
Labels: Violence Against Women