Thursday, February 07, 2008

Anthropologist Explains Why Men Who Murder Are The Real Victims

According to the Jamaica Observer Dr. Herbert Gayle, an anthropologist, has explained why men who commit suicide -- often after committing murder -- are helpless creatures at the mercy of women because these men have developed far less coping skills than women.

Of course it is women who must change to accomodate these men who so easily turn into killing machines.

Rather than Dr. Gayle revealing any sort of truth about the cause of men's violence, he is revealing the warped rationalizations of the murderous and the suicidal. The problem with his approach is that he is cheering the rationalizations of the violent by turning the non-violent into the villains and turning the violent into innocent victims with none or few options. Men who are considering murder can use this expert's opininion as proof that they indeed are the true victims and their actions are nothing more than self-defense.

"I can't say in the short term that we can begin to change the culture to be less male hostile. It is going to take years. But a part of what needs to be done is to re-socialise not only our males but also our females. Frankly, some of our females are far too manipulative," Gayle told the Sunday Observer, adding that it should come as little surprise that men were killing their women and themselves.

Psychologist Dr. Sidney McGill describes the violent as having a "brooding bitterness" prior to murder/suicides. This bitterness is not something that a woman's actions create in a man. Women don't have more power simply because they are less likely to respond to relationship conflict with violence.

This "brooding bitterness" is a latent toxin which pre-dates any relationship or any relationship problems. I see this in many of the comments left on my blog by anti-feminist trolls. My words didn't make them bitter, that was a pre-existing condition. My words simply gave them an excuse to spew forth their bitterness. It's no surprise that many of these bitter men use a rhetoric of violence.

Throw normal relationship conflict into this toxin and an unsurprising result is domestic violence. This in no way is the victim's fault. Changing women's behavior will do nothing to rid men of this "brooding bitterness." With the toxin in place, it could as easily be another man who does something to make this "brooding bitterness" take over a man's thoughts. I suspect that violence which comes from the same underlying motivation when directed against other men would -- according to these experts -- magically transform itself into senseless violence.

"There are a lot of men helping women, and the implications are many - including men killing women. We don't want that to become a pathology. Men need to begin to think about self-investment," the anthropologist said. "Young men need to understand that they are the ones who are important first, and that they need to have something for themselves first before they can help anyone. It cannot be a push up situation, but a pull up."

So women of Jamaica, remember that men selflessly helping women is what causes men to kill women. This linkage reveals that the blame placed on women is utter nonsense. Men don't murder the women in their lives out of selflessness. Murder comes from selfishness and shortsightedness.

Often what is packaged as selflessness is shortsightedness. A man who goes to a bar every weekend and who spends his rent money buying women drinks in the hope that he will get laid has nobody but himself to blame if he doesn't get laid and doesn't have enough money left the pay the rent. If he rants about those evil women draining him dry he can avoid taking a hard look at his own behavior which he likely doesn't really want to change.

The message should be to men, "Until you learn to cope with conflict and your own choices in a healthy way don't get into relationships with women." But that doesn't sell nearly as well to men as blaming women for men's violence does.

hat tip: Feministing


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posted by Marcella Chester @ 9:54 AM   2 comments links to this post


At February 07, 2008 1:14 PM, Anonymous JENNIFER said...

Denial, denial denial. Once again male denial is being used to justify male violence against women. Either deny the violence occurred or blame women for causing men to supposedly react with violence. A very clever ploy designed to reinforce belief women are to blame for men's violence. Women according to Herbert Gayle have more power than men. Strange though that men still hold the power worldwide and it is men who are still raping, sexually torturing and murdering women simply because they are female. But denial is a very clever way of absolving the male perpetrator and his apologists from having to deal with reality - the reality many men choose to use violence against women and these actions work because it serves to keep women subordinate to men.

Men who commit sucide after murdering women do so because they want to inflict as much pain and suffering on the woman's relatives and friends. I see no mention was made of the men's actions before they committed suicide apart from Gayle claiming these men had been driven to such acts because of the women's actions. Well what about the women what did they suffer from the men before these males brutally and sadistically murdered them?

At February 12, 2008 5:41 PM, OpenID longbench said...

This article, published in a society where 1) there is low readership and literacy, 2) little public education about mental illness, rape, suicide, etc. and 3) public discussion of sexual violence is bereft of basic facts about what it means to be an abusive man, and what it means to be a woman violated by men, is itself violence against women.


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