I was watching the Today Show and I just lost my appetite thanks to Dr. Laura Schlessinger's comments as part of a panel on why men cheat which used Gov. Eliot Spitzer's prostitution ring scandal as an example.
Dr. Laura's tired old wife blaming which says that substandard wifely behavior makes husbands susceptible to being lured away is typical BS (which cheating men love to hear). For anyone who isn't hopelessly in love with blaming the wife for the husband's behavior they will be able to see that this case disproves Dr. Laura's wife blaming theory.
Further, if Dr. Laura doesn't blame husbands just as much for wives who cheat then she clearly doesn't believe in the principles which are the rockbed of her wife blaming theory.
In this case, like many others the cheating husband wasn't lured away by anybody. It wasn't a prostitute who lured Gov. Spitzer, but Gov. Spitzer who made arrangements to have a prostitute delivered much like imported caviar.
That behavior reflects on general attitudes about sex and about prostitution. For many men hiring a prostitute isn't "real" cheating since it isn't an emotional betrayal of their wife or girlfriend. They are just having the chassis lubed.
Other men, like clients 1 through 8, whoever they are may have directly affected Gov. Spitzer's decision to use this prostitution agency by their attitudes and behavior related to using the most expensive prostitution agencies. Because of the prices and the packaging, this prostitution ring could feel like it has nothing in common with "bad" prostitution rings which put girls out on street corners or shut them inside massage parlors.
Yet men's attitudes and actions related to cheating and prostitution are never to blame and they are rarely mentioned when these topics are discussed in the mainstream news.
This attitude of Dr. Laura's which gives men an easy excuse for cheating isn't far removed from the attitudes which blame rape victims for their rapist's behavior.