Separately, the 2 following comments from the same man are annoying and typical victim blaming, but together they paint a picture of the commenter and his worldview which are highly informative.
philo has left a new comment on your post "It Isn't Just Victims Of Date Rape Who Cope By Rape Denial":
"What would it mean if society readily admitted that not only do men rape women, but also that men rape women in tragically large numbers?" [from M Andrea's comment on this post.]
It would mean that men who prosecute other men for rape are a bunch of
hypocrites. If I'm labeled a rapist and I submit to that label, then I can
either wallow in self hatred (I wouldn't give society that satisfaction) or I
can begin to empathize with other rapists. The result is that I'll want rape
decriminalized or reduced to a misdemeanor at the least. After all, why should a
select few languish in prison when we're all guilty?
Note that the question did not ask what would happen if society admitted that all men were rapists. Philo is the one who made the jump to all men being as equally guilty of rape as he is and then he's the one who created a pity party for those few rapists -- percentage wise -- who are prosecuted and found guilty.
After raping me, my rapist claimed he didn't do anything all the other guys weren't doing since that gave him a way to minimize his actions and to minimize the harm he did to me.
As for efforts to decriminalize rape, please continue to Philo's 2nd comment.
philo has left a new comment on your post "For Those Who Say Non Stranger Rapists Shouldn't Be Viewed As Dangerous Offenders":
Womyn need to take more responsibility for their actions. Are you all helpless children?
It's amazing how someone who's supposed to be my legal equal can turn on a dime into a helpless damsel.
Lets adjust the lens on this story a little.
Girl goes on mySpace to hookup.
Meets up with some guys who promise a good time.
Gets drunk, fucks around, goes home.
Mom is pissed. Girl employs the rape excuse to beat the rap with mom.
Happens all the time.
It seems womyn want all the rights and none of the responsibilities. Selective equality.
And just to make myself clear I have no empathy for victims. You should all become lesbians. As heterosexuals you are walking time bombs.
From his first comment it was clear he had no empathy for victims except for those hapless rapists who become victims of an unfair society when they don't get away with rape like the majority of rapists do. How unfair!
His lens adjustment conveniently twists reality -- documented in several of the defendant's own words -- to suit his view expressed in the first comment. He has decriminalized this rape by changing the facts of the case.
I see this same effort from many people who claim to be anti-rape (they are against those few rapes that are left after the mandatory lens adjustment) and unfortunately some of these people work in the criminal justice system.
It's also telling that this is followed by "Happens all the time." If girls or women who agree to be alone with him frequently tell their mothers or their friends or the cops that he raped them then all us must know that there is a great female conspiracy to frame him for rape. All you have to do to see this is keep that lens twisted.
In his worldview a woman who is raped is voluntarily surrendering her legal equality. If she then demands justice something is wrong with her.
Labels: Violence Against Women