Because of the topic of my blog I rarely include a trigger warning. This time I need to do so.
Proceed with caution to read the quote below.
From a blogger who calls himself SP who has a blog to document a healing journey called My Journal Why are women so mean:
[...] so i get on the 3rd floor and as i turn i see this one skinny ass trick who looks like she's anorexic, and she automatically rolls her eyes. i was like wtfff? bitch do i even know you? i mean i haven't even "looked" at your bitch ass to a point where you could find it annoying, i just just happened to see you as i would see anybody turning right into the hallway. why are you so fucking mean you stank ass piece of shit ass bitch? shit!!!
see this is why i think rapes, beatings, and other violence towards women is necessary. it's not something i would condone but for every bitch like this there is a man who would beat the shit out of her and/or rape her. ying and yang in its purest form. and some of that violence changes these bitches for the better actually. it puts them in their place and brings them down to earth. just cuz you got pussy between your legs dont mean you gotta treat other human beings who have dicks like shit. dumb ass fucking slut you should be giving a beating for disrespecting strangers that you don't even know.
Please, any girl or woman who is tempted to respond with an angry comment. Don't. Not because he doesn't deserve your anger, but because some other unsuspecting girl or woman around him is likely to feel the backlash.
He says he wouldn't rape those he feels deserve rape and I believe that is true when he wrote that post, but that promise of non-violence cannot be trusted the next time some girl or woman does something to trigger his rage.
His anger toward girls and women seems to be cumulative so the next eye rolling won't be just an eye rolling, it will be everything that all girls and women ever did that triggered his anger.
He doesn't know how to process justified reactions to his cumulative anger at girls and women. That makes him as dangerous as a land mine.
This boy or man doesn't understand that his violent internal reaction is not caused by that "bitch" who rolled her eyes. It is caused by the turmoil inside of himself which comes from his thinking, his feelings and his history.
Until he realizes this and starts diffusing that internal turmoil, he is a serious danger to all girls and women. The first sign of violence those women or girls may see of this danger could be the violence itself.
If his body language as he looked at her communicated this disdain for girls and women, he refuses to see her rolling of her eyes as a natural reaction to what he radiates because that doesn't fit with his need to blame her for his rageful reaction.
He sees his desire for violence against girls and women as natural and justified, but he is wrong.
He communicates that girls and women shouldn't treat others like shit, but then justifies behavior on the part of boys and men toward girls and women which is so much worse than the behavior he hates.
That's not ying and yang. That's finding irrational excuses for venting internal rage.
Venting this rage will never make him feel better for more than a moment or two because the cause of his rage is not whatever that girl or woman did to trigger his rage. The cause of his rage is inside of himself and he carries it with him everywhere he goes.
Only dealing with the genuine root of that rage and finding better, healthier ways to cope will make a lasting positive difference to this guy.
Having affordable and effective resources for boys and men who think like this but who haven't --yet -- acted on their violent feelings are critical to preventing violence against girls and women.
This will do more than help women, it will help boys and men learn how to live healthier, happier lives.
Labels: Violence Against Women