From BeliefNet interview with pastor Rick Warren who is scheduled to give the invocation at Obama's inaguration:
BELIEFNET: So why do we hear so much more - especially from religious conservatives - about gay marriage than about divorce?
Oh we always love to talk about other sins more than ours. Why do we hear more about drug use than about being overweight? Why do we hear more about anything else than about wasting time or gossip? We want to point that my sins are perfectly acceptable. Your sins are hideous and evil.
[... from the clarification:]
Sex was God's idea, not ours. Like fire, and many other things God gave us, sex can be used for good, or abused in ways that harm. The Designer of sex has clearly and repeatedly said that he created sex exclusively for husbands and wives in marriage. Whenever God's parameters are violated, it causes broken hearts, broken families, emotional hurt and shame, painful memories, and many other destructive consequences. There would be so STDs in our world if we all played by the rules.
Since Rick Warren acknowledges that sex can be used for evil why isn't he more active in fighting rape and getting all rapists to repent (even those who rape their heterosexual spouses) than he is toward fighting gay marriage? If heterosexual marriage is supposed to be a blessing then why isn't Rick Warren doing more to fight domestic violence which turns what was supposed to be a blessing from God into a vehicle of harm?
The answers to my questions is contained in Rick Warren's previous comment. It's easier to condemn "their" sins (consensual homosexuality) than to look at the sin in a group's own midst (heterosexual rape and abuse).
If the Christians who oppose gay marriage showed the same amount of passion toward fighting rape and lived that opposition 24/7 -- meaning no more scolding rape victims for not preventing rape -- the number of rapes would plummet.
This is one of the reasons why as a Christian I am so uncomfortable in so many churches. Another reason is the study about the link between religious beliefs and severity of sex crimes comitted by convicted sex offenders. Too often a rapist's public persona trumps the evidence and real victims get villified.
When men who are church leaders get caught committing sex crimes against female parishers too often even the possibility that evil was done by the sex offender is denied. Meanwhile we get Christians calling sex crimes a mistake, lecturing girls and women against luring men into sinful behavior by the way they dress or the way they act.
For too many people a boy or man exhibiting sexual aggression against a girl or woman is dismissed as natural behavior which for those who believe in Rick Warren's interpretation of the Bible when it comes to sex would mean that this male predatory behavior was given to us from God.
Some pro-life Christians have gone so far as to declare that God has decided to bless some girls and women through rape by causing them to get pregnant. This declaration transforms God into the force behind rape. No wonder these people don't want rape victims to get emergency contraception in order to prevent pregnancy. No lesser being than God was responsible for that rape and no lesser being should interfere.
That is dangerous thinking which isn't undone by those people's stated willingness to see the rapist/father prosecuted.
If a woman having sex with another woman is unnatural and against God's wishes and sexual violence is not condemned with equal fervancy then it is no wonder that 4 men decided to gang rape a woman who had a rainbow symbol on her car. To those men her actions had to be worse than theirs and that rape-enabling belief doesn't pop up out of thin air. And it's no wonder this act of violence is not an isolated incident.
Until I see those who believe homosexual activity is a sin being as proactive in the fight against rape and abuse in heterosexual marriages, I cannot view their anti-gay position as having anything to do with sexual sin. Their selective opposition to sexual sin means that they are practicing general bigotry and their opposition to gay rights is in opposition to civil rights.