Tuesday, March 17, 2009

3rd Blog Anniversary

Three years ago today, on March 17, 2006 I started this blog with a post which set out the purpose of this blog.

Since then I've been called a liar who wasn't really raped by many a rape apologist who expresses opposition to women making allegations against men without undeniable proof. These false accusations directed at me don't cause me any pain because I no longer believe the falsehoods which these accusers use to justify their attacks.

Their attacks are as credible as statements claiming that the universe revolves around the Earth which doesn't move. They see the sun rise every morning so it must be true. They see that I couldn't have been raped as I've disclosed so it must be true that I wasn't raped.

I don't ignore their attacks because these falsehoods which form the foundation of their attacks cause real harm. These falsehoods contributed to my boyfriend's rational decision to rape me and his ability to view his actions as acceptable toward someone you love.

These rape apologists fail to see the irony they provide as they regularly and blatantly violate the principles they claim to hold more dear than life itself.

Just yesterday I responded to a commenter who is okay with seeing a million rape victims being denied justice in the name of protecting one innocent man. That's not justice and it does nothing to protect the innocent -- not even those who are genuinely wrongfully accused of rape.

When the seemingly positive motives for denying rape and denying justice to rape victims are examined more closely it becomes clear that those motives are in no way positive. Minimizing or denying most rapes and denying most rape victims justice are the goals.

Most rape apologists are fine with investigative sloppiness and bigotry in rape cases except when that investigative sloppiness and bigotry harms an innocent man -- or one who claims to be innocent -- instead of harming thousands of innocent girls and innocent women.

An investigator who instantly knows that an alleged rape victim is a liar and therefore guilty is a genius, but one who instantly knows that an alleged rapist is a liar and therefore guilty is an idiot who should lose his job.

The reality which these rape apologists deny is that effective responses to rape and respectful treatment of those who report rape doesn't hurt those falsely accused of rape. Instead it hurts sex criminals who falsely claim to be the "real victims" in rape cases. This brand of rape liar needs sloppy investigations and banks on specific and general false allegations against rape victims. The testimony of rape victims must be disregarded when that same person would be considered credible if the crime weren't a sex crime.

I've highlighted dangerous beliefs held by those who are genuinely opposed to rape because some falsehoods related to rape are so pervasive and seemingly positive that the harm they do often goes unnoticed and unchecked.

During these same 3 years I've heard from many of my fellow rape survivors and I am reminded anew that am not alone as I stand up against those who make excuses for rapists and who blame most rape victims.

I have many allies in my efforts to see the justice system treat those who have been victims of sex crimes treated justly and to see a reduction in the number of rapes. I applaud each one of them and encourage more people, women and men, to join our ranks.

My upcoming attendance at the Women, Action and the Media (WAM!) conference (March 27-29) is an opportunity to learn and to connect with many other people. Thank you to those who made donations to help cover my conference expenses.

I will share some of what I have learned as a panelist in the workshop:
Pulling the Plug on Rape Culture One Word at a Time:
Using Accuracy to Undermine Dangerous Attitudes and Injustice
With the uncertain economy I don't know what changes will happen in my life in the next year. I wish I could promise to give as much time to blogging as I have in each of the last 3 years.

I will definitely continue to do what I can. What I learn at WAM! may help open up new and exciting possibilities.


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posted by Marcella Chester @ 10:34 AM   6 comments links to this post


At March 17, 2009 5:20 PM, Blogger Rj said...

Congrats, Marcella! Phenomenal work.

At March 17, 2009 11:30 PM, Blogger Marz Ringo said...

Blogs like yours are important. It takes alot of bravery to come forward about your experiences and stand up to people who have no idea what they're talking about. It's important for victims to come forward and be unafraid of the negative and sexist stereotypes attributed to rape victims.

At March 19, 2009 1:36 PM, Anonymous S.B. said...

Dear Marcella,
For A Job Well Done and that no other could have done with such dedication and courage. Happy Birthday to your blog's 3rd year of survivor caring and amazing service.
Thank you again and always, so much for sharing your concern over rape and bringing light and awareness of the truth of the devastating effects that rape does cause to victims, of rape pervasiveness and of the rotten, parade of rapist pardoning, protecting, Nay Saying denier’s, exhonorations & despicable, disrespecting victim blaming wrongs & persecution. A REAL END to the promotion of Rapist endorsing, hero-izing, pardoning and sanctioning of Rape and Classical (or other) Rape Mythology re-creation in all of it's many despicable forms via high paid College MRA "Educators" curriculums & agendas for on and off campus communities is actually the only starting point for real humanities education and a revocation of this rapist "privilege" allowance in society. When these men start learning decency and the appropriate caring towards females they will be able to generate new ideas and respect in their students and own children’s current wrongly led thinking; that rape is simply a man’s “duty” or “Natural inclination” and “privilege” under “certain circumstances”.

Rape is NOT OK nor “heroic” no matter how “popular” it happens to have become for it having been so “Painted”, “Portrayed”, “Reenacted” and Educated to our youth thru Greek (and other) Mythology on down to present day Be-Bop's hateful erroneous misogynistic MRA “Manly Heroism” or “only human” Male “privilege” of raping. Nor is the constant “whore calling” Victim Blame (as it is a No Brainer, too, apparently in this “culture of rapist privilege” that it’s “OK” to Rape “Whores” or “Nutty - Sluts”… or… ie. 87% or so of Women & others raped… unless, of course, you are one of the country’s vast MRA band wagon hopping predator supporters whose preference is to claim this very realistic figure of RAINN’s is merely “feminist rubbish” and replaceable, daily, with only the more visibly, beaten to a pulp and ripped apart “REAL” rape victims or those not so easily swept into some man’s or his “women’s” circular file and consequently re-tag-able, easier to prosecute & persecute then or sometime later in a woman’s life or career if ever reporting 2nd rapes or supportive of another rape victim… and then set up falsely for crimes not committed for further persecutions based wrongly & rottenly in the prejudice of this original fraternal bond of male protector’s uncaring attitudes or agendas of mis-blaming, wrongly passed on, “false reporting” “more real perpetrator”, “lying Whore” “no rape there” “liars” profiling (Horse@!#@).

At March 19, 2009 11:02 PM, Anonymous S.B. said...

correction; that would be hip hop, I believe... rather than earlier said, be bop... Thank you, again.

At March 23, 2009 3:12 PM, Blogger DvaBeyondSilence said...

I posted a comment on this blog date yesterday. Did it get received? Is it being denied?


At March 23, 2009 7:18 PM, Blogger Marcella Chester said...


I didn't reject any comments from you. I did get a comment from you recently but I think that was on a different post.


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