If McDonald is concerned for the safety of girls and women then she needs to not conflate stealing lipstick with being the victim of gang rape unless it is to tell us that there are always people hovering just out of sight waiting for a wrong move before they pounce.
... when the game is over there are always a handful of young women hovering around the players ... They want to hook up with a player. [...]
I make no judgment, but I do have a problem with women who can't make an educated choice: "If I go back to that player's hotel room or even out to a toilet cubicle at the back of a nightclub, can I really trust that the player I left with will be the only player there when I arrive, or even half-an-hour later?"
If we want starstruck young women to make an educated guess, perhaps we should educate them? If I steal that lipstick off the shelf, there's a good chance I'll be caught on security camera, charged by police and appear in court. We are taught that.
In the first case, the wrong move is stealing and the response is a shoplifting arrest. In the second case, the "wrong move" is walking to a more isolated location with 1 individual player and the response is gang rape. Too many people call the response in the second situation the consequence because this fits their ideology. But this is the ideology of rapists.
McDonald is accidentally communicating that any excuses by players that an alleged gang rape was a result of an honest misunderstanding are lies. She's seen and understood their regular MO, she just doesn't see it as their problem.
If I go into a hotel toilet or up in the lift with a player/players to a room, there's a good chance I'll be filmed on CCTV or a mobile phone and, if something goes horribly wrong, I have no recourse in the courts. Maybe we need to start teaching teenage girls that.By "something goes horribly wrong," she means rape and more likely gang rape. Something going horribly wrong in a player's room would be the toilet overflowing with water and its fresh contents.
Rape is never something going horribly wrong, it is some rapist going horribly wrong.
What McDonald is teaching girls is that Australia and many other countries will ignore gang rape as long as the gang rapists didn't drag their victim into a room. This position means gang rape is treated by the police similarly to jurisdictions where seat belt laws are never issued on their own but only in conjunction with another violation.
This makes not wearing your seat belt and committing gang rape similar types of crimes.
By scolding women McDonald is taking the position that men who rape are morally superior to women who have consensual sex. It also tells us that gang rape by sportsmen is no freak occurrence by a few rogue players but instead happens regularly when athletes can get someone to willingly walk with 1 or more athletes to a different more isolated location.
If McDonald is aware of gang rapes which are done in the way she describes she should have called the police. To do nothing about repeated gang rapes except write an article scolding girls and women is .... I don't have the words for what this is other than complicit.
If a woman consents to have sex with 1 player and a whole team might be hiding around the corner waiting that's not only gang rape that's premeditated gang rape. Yet in this narrative it is the target of this gang rape who is the transgressor.
We are taught that stealing lipstick is a crime, but apparently sports players are not taught that committing gang rape is a crime.
If any sports player cannot tell the difference between hooking up and raping, that sports player needs to abstain from all sexual contact until he learns the difference. But read McDonald's suggested education plan:
This in no way strikes at the core of the problem which is rape. This suggested campaign supports rapists and would likely increase the rate of sexual violence. The implied crime is girls and women going to a hotel room and the implied punishment for that crime is gang rape.
The ideal place to strike at the core of the problem is high school, through programs held in tandem with sex education and lifestyle or career counselling classes, or through the media with government-backed mass advertising programs.
Not too long ago, the national TV advertising campaign "Violence Against Women - Australia Says No" sent powerful messages. How about a campaign "Going to Hotel Rooms With Several Men - Australia Says Think Again"?
I say to McDonald and all who agree with her, think again.
If there were any campaign to prevent this type of crime it needs to be directed at exposing the premeditation in this type of crime and doing away with the excuses for rape.
H/T: Hoyden About Town