Monday, June 01, 2009

Carnival Against Sexual Violence 71

Welcome to the June 1, 2009 edition of the Carnival Against Sexual Violence.

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Thank you to everyone who nominated a post or who wrote a post against sexual violence whether it was nominated/selected or not. Nominations that came in after the nomination deadline will be considered for the next edition of the carnival.

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Here are the selections for this edition of the carnival against sexual violence:

creative expression

In Didn't you? posted at Ripples in a small pond, we get a poem about the author's rape experience.


In Lesotho woman under pressure to bear HIV positive husband a son posted at OneLove, we get a discussion about the demands that women keep having children until they give their husbands a son.


In Power abusing predator judge about to get his ass impeached posted at Uppity Woman, we get a discussion of impeachment proceedings against a federal judge sentenced to 33 months in prison for obstructing justice in an investigation–of him.

In Flasher's DNA Matches Unsolved Rape Cases posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor's zigzag journey into the open, I discuss a case which disproves the assumptions many people have about those convicted of non-contact sex crimes.

In The Limits of Consent Part 2 posted at Feminist Mormon Housewives, we get a discussion about the contrasting attitudes many athletes have about rape based on the victim's gender.

In cuts to sexual abuse crisis line posted at The Hand Mirror, we get a discussion of budget cuts in Auckland, New Zealand.

In Irish Catholic Church Child Abuse posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor's zigzag journey into the open, I discuss a report about the findings of 10 years of research into sexual and physical abuse to children living in Irish institutions.

media watch

In Matthew Johns, feeling trapped and out-numbered? posted at blue milk, we get a discussion about how the apology given on The Footy Show highlights common attitudes towards sexual violence and exploitation.

In My Antifeminist Childhood: "Sex Type Thing" Edition posted at Unapologetically Female, we get a discussion of the disturbing lyrics of a Stone Temple Pilots song.

In The Matthew Johns Scandal: blaming the victim posted at femina, we get a discussion about comments made on the Internet about the woman who disclosed gang rape.

In The duty of fiction writers to tell the truth: Part I posted at Wallaby, we get the first in a series of posts about Jodi Picoult’s use of false rape allegations as a plot device.

In "I am a survivor of rape." posted at M. Colleen McDevitt, we get a powerful video featuring 4 women who talk about their rapes and the aftermath of those rapes.

In Leaving "The Lifestyle" posted at Shakespeare's Sister, we get a discussion of an interview done by NPR's Michel Martin with Jackie McReynolds, who runs Angels Project Power, and Nakita Harrison, a client of that organization.

In Rape and the New York Times posted at Long Way Home, we get a discussion about Nicolas Kristof's description of the ongoing violence in Liberia.

In Blaming women some more, just using big words this time posted at In a strange land, we get an analysis of statements which mix excuses, victim blaming, and telling women that they are the people who are responsible for not letting themselves be raped.

In Women Need To Be Educated About Inherent Gang Rape Dangers posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor's zigzag journey into the open, I discuss an article in Fox news Australia which describes premeditated and systematic gang rape as "sex dangers."

personal stories

In Rape or just "bad sex" the myth about consent posted at One woman, many truths, we get the story of one woman's rape which examines how her view of ultimately giving in to the act being committed against them changed in the 14 years since that rape.

In Breaking the circle posted at The F Word, we get a candid view of repeat experiences of being targeted with abuse and sexual assault by boys and men.

raising awareness

In Matthew Johns just a product of Aussie society posted at The Voice of Today's Apathetic Youth, we get a discussion about how sexually dangerous athletes bring their dangerous biases with them when they join professional sports teams.

In Child Sexual Abuse: Matter of Grave Concern posted at The Viewspaper, we get a discussion of incestuous child sexual abuse and related attitudes in India.

In Guest Commentary: Tabatha on Rape, Racism, and Recent Protests posted at Opposing Bigotry, we get a discussion of a racist, anti-immigrant group called Oregonian's For Immigration Reform (OFIR) which hosted a demonstration outside a Wendy's restaurant in Milwaukee, Oregon and responded to the rape of one worker at the hands of another at the restaurant by seizing on the immigration status of the accused rapist as the defining factor.

In Debunking common excuses for rape posted at The Hand Mirror, we get a response to a variety of ways that rape is denied or blamed on the victim.

In Could Sex Workers' Rights Be Wrong? posted at End Human Trafficking, we get a powerful conversation with a woman who was trafficked as a child and is still in the commercial sex industry because her criminal record acts as a barrier.

In Anger posted at rage is good, we get a discussion about a woman who did everything she was supposed to do to protect herself, but was still murdered by her ex-husband soon after their divorce was final.

In Unfortunately, the Numbers Don't Lie posted at Change Happens, we get links to a month’s worth of news about sexual assault on college campuses, from April 20 to May 20 (some stories may be triggering).

In Domestic Violence and Sex Ed: What?s the Connection? posted at Sex Ed, Honestly, we get a discussion sparked by a fund-raising event for Womanspace, a local organization that gives shelter, counseling and care to women who have been physically and sexually abused by their husbands and partners.

In International Exploitation of Children and the Sweden Solution posted at In the Best Interest: Child Advocacy Law, we get a discussion of a shift of thinking and law related to prostitution where those who pay are criminalized instead of prosecuting those being prostituted as a way to reduce the financial rewards for sex traffickers.


In SAFETY FIRST: Assessing Safety of Sexual Abuse Survivors posted at Discussing Dissociation, we get insight from a trauma therapist with 25 years of clinical experience in the areas of trauma and dissociation.

In iSurvive - Blogging for a Cause Part 2 posted at My Monster Has A Name, we get information about a survivor's forum.


In Report On Sexual Violence In Minnesota And Call For Action posted at abyss2hope: A rape survivor's zigzag journey into the open, I discuss research and proposed actions based on that research.


In Newsflash! Rape survivors might have some opinions on how police could handle their cases better! posted at That's Why I'm a Feminist, we get a discussion of a project to ask victims about their own experiences which will be conducted next year and a part of an audit of police forces and Crown Prosecution Service performance.

In Men Can Stop Rape - From Theory to Practice Strength Training posted at Advocate Trainings, we get information about a training in DC scheduled for July.

That concludes this edition of the carnival against sexual violence. Thank you for taking the time to visit this carnival and thank you to the authors of all the posts included in this edition.

To nominate a post (your own or someone else's) to the next edition of carnival against sexual violence, use the carnival submission form. If you have any problem with the form, please let me know so your submission can be considered for the next edition.

Links to everything related to the carnival can be found on the blog dedicated to this carnival,

Marcella Chester

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At June 01, 2009 7:11 AM, Anonymous Holly said...

Great roundup of links. Tons of good reads, appreciate you putting them all in one place!

At June 01, 2009 2:03 PM, Anonymous Sarah M. said...

Excellent round-up as usual. Thanks for including SAFER.

At June 02, 2009 8:46 AM, OpenID meninmytown said...

My name is Keith Smith. I was abducted, beaten and raped by a stranger. It wasn't a neighbor, a coach, a relative, a family friend or teacher. It was a recidivist pedophile predator who spent time in prison for previous sex crimes; an animal hunting for victims in the quite, bucolic, suburban neighborhoods of Lincoln, Rhode Island.

I was able to identify the guy and the car he was driving. Although he was arrested that night and indicted a few months later, he never went to trial. His trial never took place because he was brutally beaten to death in Providence before his court date. 34 years later, no one has ever been charged with the crime.

In the time between the night of my assault and the night he was murdered, I lived in fear. I was afraid he was still around town. Afraid he was looking for me. Afraid he would track me down and kill me. The fear didn’t go away when he was murdered. Although he was no longer a threat, the simple life and innocence of a 14-year-old boy was gone forever. Carefree childhood thoughts replaced with the unrelenting realization that my world wasn’t a safe place. My peace shattered by a horrific criminal act of sexual violence.

Over the past 34 years, I’ve been haunted by horrible, recurring memories of what he did to me. He visits me in my sleep. There have been dreams–nightmares actually–dozens of them, sweat inducing, yelling-in-my-sleep nightmares filled with images and emotions as real as they were when it actually happened. It doesn’t get easier over time. Long dead, he still visits me, silently sneaking up from out of nowhere when I least expect it. From the grave, he sits by my side on the couch every time the evening news reports a child abduction or sex crime. I don’t watch America’s Most Wanted or Law and Order SVU, because the stories are a catalyst, triggering long suppressed emotions, feelings, memories, fear and horror. Real life horror stories rip painful suppressed memories out from where they hide, from that recessed place in my brain that stores dark, dangerous, horrible memories. It happened when William Bonin confessed to abducting, raping and murdering 14 boys in California; when Jesse Timmendequas raped and murdered Megan Kanka in New Jersey; when Ben Ownby, missing for four days, and Shawn Hornbeck, missing for four years, were recovered in Missouri.

Despite what happened that night and the constant reminders that continue to haunt me years later, I wouldn’t change what happened. The animal that attacked me was a serial predator, a violent pedophile trolling my neighborhood in Lincoln, Rhode Island looking for young boys. He beat me, raped me, and I stayed alive. I lived to see him arrested, indicted and murdered. It might not have turned out this way if he had grabbed one of my friends or another kid from my neighborhood. Perhaps he’d still be alive. Perhaps there would be dozens of more victims and perhaps he would have progressed to the point of silencing his victims by murdering them.

Out of fear, shame and guilt, I’ve been silent for over three decades, not sharing with anyone the story of what happened to me. No more. The silence has to end. What happened to me wasn't my fault. The fear, the shame, the guilt have to go. It’s time to stop keeping this secret from the people closest to me, people I care about, people I love, my long-time friends and my family. It’s time to speak out to raise public awareness of male sexual assault, to let other victims know that they’re not alone and to help victims of rape and violent crime understand that the emotion, fear and memories that may still haunt them are not uncommon to those of us who have shared a similar experience.

For those who suffer in silence, I hope my story brings some comfort, strength, peace and hope.

My novel, Men in My Town, was inspired by these actual events. Men in My Town is available now at

For additional information, please visit the Men in My Town blog at

At June 02, 2009 10:48 AM, Blogger Marcella Chester said...

Keith, my heart breaks for violence done to you. I'm glad you are able to speak out.

At June 04, 2009 11:13 AM, Blogger Beth Fehlbaum, Author said...

Marcella, thank you so much for the wonderful work you do. :)
Beth Fehlbaum, author
Courage in Patience, a story of HOPE..
Ch. 1 is online!

At June 05, 2009 10:58 AM, Anonymous OneLove said...

Great line-up. Thank you for including me.


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